Whether it's Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake in 'Friends With Benefits', or the articles about how people increasingly are skipping traditional 'dating' altogether in favour of sex-based relationships, it's become increasingly clear that we live in an era of the no string attached relationship.
These special relationships require special treatment, as you can imagine. It's not all bunny rabbits and heart shaped chocolates, and cuddling in the park. To conduct yourself in the right way, you'll need to know the unwritten rules of maintaining your very own "fuck buddy" relationship. Where, here's some essential tips to help.
The main thing to bear in mind is that these relationships are not just 100% about sex. You can't phone someone up when you feel like it, and turn, fuck them and leave. Some tending of the relationship is required, to set it up, develop trust, and later on, staying in touch, having light, fun conversation. You'll want to avoid talking about buying rings, having kids and weddings of course.
One thing you'll need to do is be sure tell him or her what you're looking for in this relationship. It could be dominance, submission, whips,chains, a threesome, or non-exclusivity, but make it clear the terms of what you're after.
Be prepared to be rejected, but, by being honest, you save yourself and the other person a lot of heartache. You will find there are people out there who want what you're offering. Honesty is the best policy.
A key rule in meeting and dating fuck buddies is to trust your gut. The man or woman you're chatting to may be telling you all sorts of wonderful things, but if you feel that it's just lip service, and that there is more to it than meets the eye, it is vital to break contact.
It is human nature that people say things to please on another that they don't necessarily mean. So a woman, may, for example, say that's she's O.K with a non-exclusive relationship, but in her heart want to keep hold of you. She may be trying to convince herself as much as you, but turn crazy later. It's your choice.
Making time for your fuck buddy is a key part of maintaining the relationship. While you don't want constantly to ask how their husband or kids are doing, you can check in and make them smile, and make sure they're OK. Keep things light, and accept that they have their own life - but keep it clear that you are not a formal part of it, just a casual friend.
Leading on from this, you may be familiar with the phrase "business is business". Well, your fuck buddy is your fuck buddy, so when you do communicate, the purpose of the relationship is sex, not love, so don't get mushy on them.
Equally, don't share all your deepest secrets and emotional baggage with them, it's not that kind of relationship. Just enough for you to feel comfortable around them, but that's all.
It's not a place for being comforted and nurtured, like a girlfriend or boyfriend might do when you lose your job or your mum passes away. They're your fuck buddy, and that's it.
You can go for drinks, and hang out with them, of course, but you really want to be taking them to a bar, not your works do or Parent-Teachers meetings, right?
Last but not least. Be sure to satisfy your fuck buddy in the sack. That's what you're there for, right? So do what you have to, read, watch educational videos, research it (don't just jack off to porn, hehehe) properly. Learn your skills. And become a master lover.
